The Wedding Industrial Complex (WIC) is a scary monster. It’s very easy to get sucked in to its influence and to forget that people won’t really care about what shoes you are wearing. Or what colour ribbons are on the chairs. Or what box/contraption they put their thank you card in.
There are a gazillion wedding magazines out there, and books that highlight how important ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING IS when you are are planning a wedding. That’s not exactly what I was looking for. Luckily, there are some alternatives out there. Some sane people have also written books about weddings, to remind you that whatever you decide is OK. And that you aren’t breaking any of the ‘rules’ by doing things ‘differently’. Your wedding should be done your way, and no one else’s.
I’m currently reading One Perfect Day: The Selling of the American Wedding. It was written by Rebecca Mead of the New Yorker.
A great passage from the book:
“What the bridal magazines promote [...] is the idea that a bride deserves to be the center of attention for the entire period of her engagement [...]. She deserves to be the center of her own attention, at least. [...] it is her privilege, her right – indeed, her obligation – to become preoccupied with herself, her appearance, her tastes, and her ability to showcase them to their best advantage. Being a bride, according to the bridal media’s prescription, amounts to a quest for self-perfection, or perfection of the outward self at least.”
It’s available from the Ottawa Public Library.
You can even download and read an excerpt of the book by following this link.
*Note that this post will be followed up with a post about which sane wedding blogs you should be reading too!